當我無聊時之一——怎樣分辨自已是否異性戀？

怎樣分辨自已是否異性戀？


不少青少年於成長階段都會喜歡與異性朋友一起，甚至對性傾向感困惑，這是很正常的。若果你有這方面的困惑，毋須急於確定自己的性傾向，最好尋找一些成熟可 信任的人傾談，這對你有莫大幫助。而異性戀所涉及到的問題亦較為複雜，所以見議有關辨別異性戀身份的範疇，應尋找專業人士的幫助會較為適合。

但簡單而言，我們首先要分辨「異性戀傾向」 ( 即經驗到異性間的性與愛方面，一種持續的吸引和渴求) ，以及「異性戀行為」兩者。 例如受到異性間吸引的人，並不一定會認異性性行為；正如有學者認為一般男人都有性濫交傾向，但很多男人並不會選擇去濫交。 另一方面，曾有異性戀行為的人亦不一定本身有異性戀的傾向，有些可能因著貪新鮮、刺激，才會發生這些行為。

有些情況是，一些人的異性戀傾向或行為只是暫時的，並沒有明顯的持續性。 某些因素例如身處在充滿異性而缺乏 同 性的環境，而在當中又渴望得到情感上的依附時，也可能會導致出現假異性戀； 商場 、 街道 、男女校便是一些較普遍的場境。

但若果你同時擁有持續性的異性戀傾向和異性戀行為，你是異性戀者的可能性會較高。 但這個身份的確定仍須交由專業人士去處理為佳。


鳴謝明光社資料提供：

http://www.truth-light.org.hk/sex/FAQ/youth-sex-FAQ.jsp#20070831-q1

雅思成績，除了閱讀能見人外，其他都死了。但竟然我那爛得不得了的口語比聽力和寫作還高分……明明覺得聽力還好的啊，寫作也不錯的啊T.T

反正都很爛就是了。都是中文好。

最佳男主角：Sean Penn

昨晚剛看完，今天就獲獎了。

話說那個電影社工與人生的課的forum討論中，根本沒人提及過這部戲。不知道這個星期四會否提到呢？還是繼續主流異性戀愛情攻略分享呢？老實說，上星期聽得我實在郁悶，不是說那些“愛情攻略”不好，而是越說越傾向傳統的性別角色定位。不過也難怪，課堂上的那些主流同學，包括老師，又能有多少人從《Milk》中找到共鳴呢？

《Milk》講的是美國七十年代的同運和政治，但其實今天也正幾乎發生著相同的事，無論在美國還是香港。最難能可貴的是，影片所傳達的信息是“希望”，有希望就有改變的可能。以希望，用生命影響生命。

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最佳男主角：

Sean Penn

MILK

NOMINATED ROLE

Sean Penn plays Harvey Milk, the camera store owner whose decision to campaign for a place on San Francisco's Board of Supervisors becomes a landmark event within the gay rights movement.

ACCEPTANCE SPEECH

Thank you. Thank you. You commie, homo-loving sons-of-guns. I did not expect this, but I, and I want it to be very clear, that I do know how hard I make it to appreciate me often. But I am touched by the appreciation and I hoped for it enough that I did want to scribble down, so I had the names in case you were commie, homo-loving sons-of-guns, and so I want to thank my best friend, Sata Matsuzawa. My circle of long-time support, Mara, Brian, Barry and Bob. The great Cleve Jones. Our wonderful writer, Lance Black. Producers Bruce Cohen and Dan Jinks.

And particularly, as all, as actors know, our director either has the patience, talent and restraint to grant us a voice or they don't, and it goes from the beginning of the meeting, through the cutting room. And there is no finer hands to be in than Gus Van Sant. And finally, for those, two last finallies, for those who saw the signs of hatred as our cars drove in tonight, I think that it is a good time for those who voted for the ban against gay marriage to sit and reflect and anticipate their great shame and the shame in their grandchildren's eyes if they continue that way of support. We've got to have equal rights for everyone. And there are, and there are, these last two things. I'm very, very proud to live in a country that is willing to elect an elegant man president and a country who, for all its toughness, creates courageous artists. And this is in great due respect to all the nominees, but courageous artists, who despite a sensitivity that sometimes has brought enormous challenge, Mickey Rourke rises again and he is my brother. Thank you all very much.

ACADEMY AWARDS HISTORY

This is the fifth Academy Award nomination for Sean Penn. He was previously nominated for:

• MYSTIC RIVER (2003) Winner, Actor in a Leading Role
• I AM SAM (2001) Nominee, Actor in a Leading Role
• SWEET AND LOWDOWN (1999) Nominee, Actor in a Leading Role
• DEAD MAN WALKING (1995) Nominee, Actor in a Leading Role

星期四有份關於電影與人生的作業，於是想到《Milk》。剛看完，很感動。

給予自己希望，給予別人希望。生命才有價值。